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Mental Filter |
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You dwell on the negatives and ignore the positives |
Cognitive Distortions
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When you are using Mental
Filtering
you tend to screen out the positive aspects about yourself, what you do, or
other people, focusing only on the negative. |
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Unrealistic or twisted thoughts |
Realistic, untwisted responses |
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"I gained a pound this
week. It's pointless. I'm only getting fatter and fatter." |
"Gaining one pound may
just be water weight. It's only one pound and I did lose 6 pounds last month."
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"My sponsor turned out
to be a dud. My whole program stinks. Nothing ever works out right. |
"My sponsor is in
relapse, that's not my fault. She did help me get through my first few weeks. I've
learned a lot and can go on without her." |
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"I'm so bummed, I know
I got at least three of the questions wrong. I'll probably have to take the
course over next term." |
"That means I probably
got 17 right which is probably at least a B." |
When we are
using Mental Filtering we dwell on a single negative event or characteristic until it
colors our perception of the whole picture. Let's say you've gained a few pounds
since your last weigh-in. You might focus on this until you convince
yourself that you've never done anything right and that all the weight you've
lost previously accounts for nothing.
We can
also filter out the negative aspects of things and only see the positive. This
is often referred to as denial. An example would be when we decide to binge. We
think about the pleasure of eating all that food but we don't consider the
aftereffects or downside that we know by experience are a certainty. We have filtered out repercussions like the
cost to our pocketbook, physical health, and emotional well-being.
We need to look for the evidence of our successes and strong points. It does exist. One way to
help do
this is by setting aside a time each week to sit down and write out a gratitude
list. We can write down and be grateful for the assets we have that support our
recovery and the steps we have taken up to this point.
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